Motherhood & Words

I hope I’m not boring you with my weekly pregnancy updates, but I have to share this good news: I am 36 weeks pregnant today and I still haven’t turned into a water-retaining blimp.

I have a good friend who is also due the first week of March, and when I talk to her on the phone, she sounds so tired and complains of being huge and uncomfortable. She’s ready to be done with her pregnancy. I am, on the other hand, elated. Oh, I have trouble sleeping, certainly, and the indigestion is constant and uncomfortable, but still, I’m elated. I’ve never done this before—it’s as if this is my first pregnancy. The movement and how big the baby feels—these things are new to me, and I’m so grateful that I’ve made it this far.

The truth is that I could still develop preeclampsia, but now that the baby’s lungs are mature, it wouldn’t be the tragedy it would have been if I had become sick a few weeks or months ago. But making it this far also makes me think of those of you who had to live through the NICU twice, those of you who developed preeclampsia more than once (Denise and Jen, in particular), and those of you who lost your babies due to preeclampsia. I want you to know I’m not taking my 36 weeks for granted. I wish you could have experienced this, as well.

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I have been teaching creative writing for almost twenty years. Reading about other women’s lives and experiences has expanded my world. To be able to walk in someone else’s shoes, whether it’s for a moment or an hour or a few days, is an incredible gift, providing me with insight into the human experience. It takes courage to write your truths, especially if it doesn’t seem as though anyone cares, as though anyone is listening. Let me tell you: your stories matter, I’m listening, and I’m here to help you find the heart of those truths, to get them down on the page, to craft them, and to send them out into the world. Together, we will change the world, one story at a time.


  1. Amber S. on February 8, 2008 at 2:52 pm

    Wonderful to hear that you and baby are doing well!

  2. lintofpocket on February 8, 2008 at 4:17 pm

    No, we are not bored. We are cheering you on!

  3. kristen on February 8, 2008 at 4:42 pm

    Oh, I’m so happy for you. Enjoy every minute. Bored? No way.

  4. Melissa on February 8, 2008 at 6:20 pm

    Bored with updates? Are you kidding? I’m waiting for them. Hooray for 36 weeks!

  5. kyra on February 8, 2008 at 6:39 pm

    yay! it’s wonderful news!

  6. Sara on February 8, 2008 at 8:06 pm

    YAY Kate!!! No, you’re not boring me! I’m so happy for you!

  7. Lisa on February 9, 2008 at 12:55 pm

    You bring a lump to my throat. I am so very happy for you.

  8. Emmie (Better Make It A Double) on February 9, 2008 at 5:25 pm

    So happy for you, Kate! You’re probably going to have her in the same room with you, on the regular maternity ward, and then take her straight home. Wonderful.

  9. Jen on February 10, 2008 at 3:22 pm

    Oh that is wonderful news. I’m so elated with you. 🙂

    I’m so glad you’ve made it past preemie baby stage…well almost. Here is to another 3-4 weeks.


  10. Jodie on February 10, 2008 at 3:30 pm

    Hey Kate,
    I was a student of yours at the Loft and got pregnant during class. Currently I am quietly celebrating 33 weeks, and I totally get your feelings of not taking a moment for granted. I am thrilled that you are able to celebrate these personal victories with us. I wish you continued comfort as your continue to expand, lots of easy access to antacids, plenty of toilet paper, and sleep – glorious sleep!

  11. Ines on February 10, 2008 at 6:16 pm

    This is very good news, Kate. Thank you for sharing it with us. Also, I was thinking this can give you some different perspectives for writing your book. Not that you will include both experiences but perhaps your book needed to wait until your were done with another pregnancy done in a different way to give you a better idea of what to include and what (perhaps) not.

  12. **camera shy momma** on February 11, 2008 at 11:33 am

    congrats! enjoy these new moments of pregnancy!

  13. Patty on February 12, 2008 at 4:35 pm

    this is great news…glad you are sharing it with us all…

  14. Writing Sisu on February 12, 2008 at 7:18 pm

    Congratulations Kate! I’m so, so glad.

  15. Suzanne on February 12, 2008 at 10:17 pm

    I’m very happy for you!!